While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YL8Uw3anjLo&list=PLyMzTz301QVx4DyktIi5OBPlP8c03LfF- More on Narcissism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CadnytkqDKk&list=PLyMzTz301QVxr0yvW47ev6l8m1jPKagbO How do you know who is and who is not a true and reliable friend? The problem is: Those of us with Asperger's Syndrome have difficulty recognizing true friends. As a result, we often find ourselves lured into fake friendships that don't end well. Here are four things we need to know to help avoid the fake friendship trap. 1. It's not what it seems This should be obvious, and to neurotypical people it usually is obvious, but things are not always the way they appear. People with Asperger's syndrome, however, tend to oversimplify: If the person is friendly, he or she is a candidate to be a friend. If the person is not a friend, that person is not a candidate to be a friend. But, as we'll see in a moment, the surface presentation of an individual as friendly or unfriendly is a poor predictor of true outcome. 2. No one is perfect Arthur Schopenhauer, the famed 19th-century German philosopher, pondered the possibility of acquiring a true friend and came to the conclusion that the perfect friend was nowhere to be found. In his mind, every human comes with a selfish gene; an innate propensity to self-preservation at the expense of others. That's good to know. And it should be obvious. No one is perfect. We all have imperfections. Still, it's possible to sort through those who comprise our milieu; our social environment. We can identify those likely to be reliable friends and eliminate those who are not. 3. Character trumps credentials Consider the parable of the Good Samaritan. Samaritans were an ethnic group that lived in Palestine 2,000 years ago. They were often hated because they were considered half-breeds with religious views many considered heretical. A traveling Samaritan came across a man who had been severely beaten and robbed. Rather than ignore the man as others had done, the Samaritan stopped to help. While the credentials of the Samaritan were unacceptable, his character was that of a true friend. Lesson learned: You can tell a lot about people by the way they treat others. One thing I've learned about narcissists who love to prey on the unsuspecting: They don't change. If a person is kind and considerate towards you but is abusive towards others, that's a red flag that indicates his or her friendliness is fake and will only last until he or she gets what she wants. 4. A true friend will hurt you to heal you You may have heard the saying, "Bl ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ie4K1Zx2Omc

While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g I don't give advice, explicitly or implicitly. Rather, I share opinions and ideas from life experience and autodidactic learning. If you need advice, it is my opinion that you consult a qualified professional. #autism #aspergerssyndrome #highfunctioningautism Show notes: HomeWhy others don't like Aspies Why others don't like Aspies Why others don't like Aspies 1 Allow others to disrespect you in public 2 Treatment flipping 3 Interrupting (rudeness) Both ways 4 Easily offended (egg shells) Allow feedback 5 Unreliable 6 Demanding others Treat others like subordinates or children 7 Respecting boundaries 8 Dishonesty © copyright 2022 ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6enrnMR3pgM