Setting Boundaries in your relationship
EPISODE #37
Pop psychologist and internet "life coaches" love a good trope. One that's easy to remember, sounds right and is always hard to debate against. Next to "open communication solves everything" 'setting boundaries in your relationship' is a popular go-to.
Yes, boundaries in an LTR are important, but probably NOT for the reasons most people think. If your relationship is predicated on your Blue Pill ideals or you lack an acknowledged Frame, all the boundaries in the world wont mean a thing. Boundaries are only as beneficial as the person enforcing them.
A good relationship is effortless, not some constant project of trying to figure out how you or your spouse ought to be behaving all the time. In a relationship based on genuine desire boundaries are understood and respected because of a fear of actual significant loss should they be transgressed.
These boundary guys have it ass backwards. They are judging women by their words instead of judging them by their actions. Agreeing to a boundary is only her words that these guys think will keep her from cheating. A Woman who enforces her own boundaries is woman who understands what an exclusive relationship is. Those are her actions you judge her on. Not useless words she can go back on at any moment.
Today, Pat and I will discuss the importance of setting boundaries and how to effectively do so.
• Observing a process will change it; why is discussing boundaries with a woman is counterproductive?
• Why are Ultimatums ineffective?
• Why do Beta men set boundaries out of fear?
Bonus: NEVER send a dick pic
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THE RATIONAL MALE - Rollo Tomassi
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Can the "Red Pill" be saved?
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• Why will religion, politics and gender relations never be the same again?
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What's your LARP?
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• Isn't a LARP just nerd poseur stuff?
• What is an authentic, "high-value" man ?
• What do you want from life and what will it take to get it?
• Fake 'til you Fake it better: Isn't Game just a LARP
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Choreplay, Couples Therapy and the Sexual Economy
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EPISODE #40
Choreplay: The mistaken idea that doing more around the home will get a husband laid. The term originated from an article published in 2008 – "Girls make passes at guys who wash glasses" it was built around the idea that if a man were to contribute more around the house by way of doing more domestic chores, traditionally performed by women, that a man might free up his wife (or attract a girlfriend) to feel more amorous because she was less burdened by housework.
Later this theory would be proven entirely false, by the same author no less, in 2013. It is when men do traditionally masculine work that gets women's hormones flowing. Every 4-5 years the Choreplay narrative gets reheated in some variety, but the implied transaction is the same; do more work – Get more sex.
Today Pat and I will put to bed this urban legend and explain why it's evolutionarily impossible for a woman to feel genuine desire for a man who does "women's work".
Also on today's show, we'll discuss how couples 'therapy' is usually "last stop before toll" and why this racket always benefits the wife/woman in the relationship. Showtime has a new "documentary series" (see social engineering) called Couples Therapy that's shining a light on this negotiation of desire.
Lastly, we'll discuss how marriage is becoming a 'gig economy' and the mechanics behind Economic Compatibility. Why is women's concept of love rooted in opportunism? A recent research study connects the decline in marriage rates to men being "economically undesirable".
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EPISODE 20 – The Apologists
Iron Rule of Tomassi #9
Never Self-Deprecate under any circumstance. This is a Kiss of Death that you initiate and is the antithesis of the Prize Mentality. Once you’ve accepted yourself and presented yourself as a “complete douche” there’s no going back to confidence with a woman. Never appeal to a woman’s sympathies. Her sympathies are given by her own volition, never when they are begged for – women despise the obligation of sympathy. Nothing kills arousal like pity. Even if you don’t seriously consider yourself pathetic, it never serves your best interest to paint yourself as pathetic. Self-Depreciation is a misguided tool for the Beta, and not something that would even occur to an Alpha.
Why do so many men default to self-deprecation with women?
Apologizing for oneself is a hallmark of a Beta mindset, but why does this impulse come so naturally? The easy answer is that it's simply a manifestation of that mindset, but how does a Beta make it his reflexive response?
Why do men believe in 'luck with respect to women?
Why do so many men tear themselves down in order to build their woman up? What affect does this have on his wife/girlfriend when a man does this?
Bonus: Is their any way a man can replace a woman's Beta impression of him with a more Alpha one?
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ROLLO TOMASSI • THE RATIONAL MALE
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Hypergamy: Rollo Tomassi vs. Jordan Peterson
SOURCES:
Brookings Institute Analysis: https://www.brookings.edu/research/an-analysis-of-out-of-wedlock-births-in-the-united-states/
US has Highest Rate of Out of Wedlock Births: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/12/12/u-s-children-more-likely-than-children-in-other-countries-to-live-with-just-one-parent/
Truth About Black Fatherhood: https://www.givelegacy.com/resources/the-truth-about-black-fatherhood/
Poor Women Birth Stats: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson/status/1315398959624605696?s=20
Single Mothers: https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2021/04/number-of-children-living-only-with-their-mothers-has-doubled-in-past-50-years.html
Dark Triad is Sexy: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson/status/1390442237083930629?s=20
Dark Triad is Sexy (again): https://twitter.com/robkhenderson/status/1379830215866773522?s=20
Men Don't Have Attraction Floors: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40750-020-00152-2
Hypergamy: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson/status/1209909368180789248?s=20
The 80/20 Rule and Hypergamy confirmed: https://quillette.com/2021/04/30/when-men-behave-badly-a-review/
Peak SMV age differentials confirmed:
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4:50 Socio-economic and intersexual analysis of current relationships
27:00 Dark Triad traits and dating apps
41:00 Jordan Peterson's lack of frame of reference
46:00 Beer and boobs masculinity?
52:00 Studies relating the 80/20 rule and Dark Triad traits.
58:00 Peterson's perspective on Hypergamy - Beta bucks
1:17:00 Tinder is about the Alpha Seed side of Hypergamy
1:36:15 Women control eugenics for the human race
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THE RATIONAL MALE - Rollo Tomassi
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Red Pill: Facts and Fiction
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• Why do people still think Red Pill is about Pick Up Artists?
• Playing Games vs. Becoming the Game
• Why do so many people conflate MRAs with Red Pill?
• Why do your friends want you to stay the same?
• Ego Investments: Who is the 'real' you?
• How is the Red Pill "brand" useful to Old Order thinking?
• Hypergamy is not a straight jacket
• Goal State Monogamy
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