While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YL8Uw3anjLo&list=PLyMzTz301QVx4DyktIi5OBPlP8c03LfF- More on Narcissism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CadnytkqDKk&list=PLyMzTz301QVxr0yvW47ev6l8m1jPKagbO Right off the bat, we need to understand that 'offering forgiveness' and 'forgiveness' are not the same. That is, you can offer someone something, but they don't have to accept it. And if they don't accept it, no transaction has transpired. So, number 1 of 6 important points is... 1. 'Offering forgiveness' and 'forgiveness' are not the same. Here's another illustration. You can offer to sell someone a car, but if they don't want to buy it, you haven't sold it. Or, someone can offer to buy you car, but if you don't care to sell it there is no transaction. Forgiveness is a transaction between two people. So where do we go from here? 2. Leave the door unlocked. Imagine someone storms out of your house, kind of like a narcissist discards you. If you lock the door behind them so they can't return, you are not offering forgiveness. If you leave the door unlocked and the porch light on, you ARE offering forgiveness, but the offender is not forgiven until he or she returns. 3. It must be genuine. Many of us are familiar with the term 'hoovering.' Hoovering occurs after you are discarded by a narcissist, and he or she decides to return. They try to suck you back into their influence. So, you offer a narcissist forgiveness and he or she may pretend to accept it. But, in reality, they really have no contrition. There's no shame or sorrow for what they've done. But, granted, narcissists can fake shame and sorrow. 4. There must be evidence of contrition This may take years. You offer forgiveness. The narcissist says they accept your forgiveness. How do you know it's genuine? You know it's genuine if their behavior changes. But because narcissists are good actors, it may take a very long time to discern if their behavior is genuine or just an act. 5. It's highly unlikely I'm convinced that narcissism is hard-wired; that narcissists are programmed by nature with the traits that manifest themselves are, collectively, narcissism. I believe narcissists don't change because they cannot change. In other words, forgiveness will seldom, if ever, happen because narcissists don't see their narcissism as a bundle of flawed traits. Rather, they see their narcissism as a savvy instinct that gives them an advantage over others. Coupled with a lack of affective empathy (affection), the ego-dependent narcissist may superficially accept your forgiveness, but it's no ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJVtQ33-LhI

While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g I don't give advice, explicitly or implicitly. Rather, I share opinions and ideas from life experience and autodidactic learning. If you need advice, it is my opinion that you consult a qualified professional. #autism #aspergerssyndrome #highfunctioningautism Show notes: Positive traits of Aspies 1 Sincere and honest (not socially compliant) Say what they think - not a learned trait Prefer to work alone so it can be done right 2 Attention to detail; focus 3 Innovative (creative) 4 Perseverance; don't let go Usually a good thing because you see the end Example: Shopping for the right... 5 Undiscriminating; open to ideas, not judgmental Universal respect for all and vice versa. 6 Maleable 7 (ironically) Devoted to individuals, causes, companies (vulnerable) Get you in trouble but keeps you married We don't always see beyond the superfluous (cognitive empathy) 8 Affective empathy Don't do what is socially acceptable See a person who is hurting: NT will see them as a liability 9 Fairness Are repulsed by social hierarchies that give precedence to the undeserving ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o7JlP7UBz3Q

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While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g Show notes: 1 Other's opinions Perception is trumped by comfort 2 Competition; social climbing 3 Internal conflicts prompted by social pressure 4 Conversation or acceptance 5 Thinking, studying 6 Honest; identity acceptance 7 Being alone; validated ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-L7YAiyB4-A