You’re boyfriend lied to you. He did sleep with that big booty girl and she fine too... you don’t want to lose him because you’ve been with him all your life he’s all you know but you caught him on Grainy video. So you asked him about it and he lied and said, (say it with me, y’all know what he said), “It wasn’t me”. But soon, after many people confirmed it to be true, you decided to trust your eyes and finally come to grips with the truth, He Lied.
The first thing you ask him is... Why?
After that you might ask When, Where, and How Come (another way of asking why), How many times and Do you love her? But in asking Why? what you’re really saying is, please make this make sense to me because I don’t want to lose you. You’re all I know, I’ve been with you my whole life and I don’t want to be without you.
So you ignore all the evidence and you determine you’re gonna believe liar no matter what!
Ladies and gentlemen, this is cognitive dissonance. Thanks Nip. Appreciate you brotha! You’re actions are playing a role In Folks Awakening
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIC5gYNieBA
Truth goes through three stages. First it is ridiculed. Second it is violently opposed. Third it is accepted as self evident. What state are you in this process.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6owwZwmfds