The Note I recently connected with a social group in my area that has events for people over 50. This group has introduced me to wonderful venues for mixing and mingling. The majority of guests that attend these events are white men and women. Initially, I wasn't quite sure of the overall tone at these events since many of them are 'old school white folks' so for the first two events, I brought a girlfriend with me. The second event was at a country club, and I arrived with Pamela (48 years old), a black woman. We met up with Barbara (56 years old), another black woman, at the event. Barbara was sitting at a bar talking to an Italian woman (fifties) and Jeannette, a third black woman (all names are fictitious to protect identities). I already knew Barabra but met Jeannette that night. Barbara introduced Pamela and me to the Italian woman and Jeannette. Jeannette was tall; 5'9 - 6'0, sported a dark Cesar or almost bald haircut and carried a multi-colored handbag with a long strap; she wore pants, and a sheer blouse and she had on very little makeup. All of us ladies were standing there, talking, and giggling, and having a good time. All of a sudden, Jeannette said, “I am not coming back to any more of these events, there are too many old white men in here for me.” I pretended like I didn’t hear her and diverted my attention somewhere else, then she said, “and white people smell funny.” I thought to myself, oh, Lord! Again, I tried to ignore her as the other women were standing there and trying to make light of her rudeness. I thought this was highly inappropriate and embarrassing, and I did not want to make light of it. By this time, the Italian woman had disappeared. I am not sure where she went so quickly. Jeannette went on to repeat her rudeness three times and by the third time, some of the white men in the room heard what she said. By the way, did I mention that Jeannette had to be 48 to 55 years old, and spewing this nonsense? Well, at that point, I just walked away. The "group" sensed my uncomfortableness and followed me as I walked away and sat at a table alone. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3ceqzpDP1U