I Want My BPD Ex Back But He/She Needs To Change Originally Recorded July 28/23 You want your BPD Ex back he or she needs to change and yet in your relationship you tried so hard to change them and it didn't work. You can't change them, only yourself. Wanting your Ex back should be your red flag of how much you haven't changed. Pursuing getting a BPD Ex back is a massive avoidance of self and you don't know how to let it go and have it end because then what you do with yourself? You are trying in vain to recapture the initial idealization phase. That's not possible either. Nor is the BPD Relationship.
BPD Breakups - Men Are Shattered
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The Pain Of Men and Healing from a Relationship with a Borderline Women
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It is so important for men to know that there is hope and that it is not weak to hurt or to feel your feelings. Men are so devastated after a borderline or co-morbid BPD/NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disordered woman and often have no one to turn to in a world in which so many men just say, "Man up" Being a man, many have to learn in adulthood that it is okay to cry, to hurt, to get help and it is not weak or in any way a statement about your masculinity.
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Borderline Hoovers To Re-Ghost What's the Point?
When a Borderline hoovers you - a text or two - then nothing again why? What's the point of these hoovers? Why do many BPD Ex's make contact with no desire or action to re-connect or apologize and then just re-ghost you? Codependents why aren't you no contact?
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Please read the full description to know which two other videos are part of this 3 video mini-series to help loved ones better understand the differences between Vulnerable Narcissists and the Quiet Borderline (Best watched from 1-3)
The Vulnerable Narcissist who fakes Codependency all too well is often not understood or known by victims of Narcissistic Abuse until or after they have been abused and traumatized. Is the Vulnerable Narcissist different from the Covert or Inverted Narcissist? Watch my next video in this 3 part mini series - How To Spot the Quiet Borderline (https://youtu.be/23iZw1-Kj4c) followed by the 3rd video in this series - The Difference Between the Vulnerable (Covert) Narcissist and The Quiet Borderline (https://youtu.be/PEuL7X6oS3I)
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Are you a person who comes from a toxic or somewhat dysfunctional family of origin with a parent or parents with BPD, NPD, ASPD, addictions, or who is no matter what else emotionally unavailable and/or needy? Do you feel like you have to please others in order to feel respected, cared for or about or to feel worthy of their love? Do you over-give? Are you over-focusing on someone who gives nothing back to you? Are you being drained?
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BPD Relationships Borderline's Emotions Aren't Yours To Regulate yet so many with Codependency try so hard to do just this. Trying to walk on their eggshells so they don't get triggered. Trying to help them calm down or stop crying or meet their needs. This is codependent loss of self.
Borderline Personality defined as a serious mental illness by the American Psychiatric Association in partnership with Pharma and the trauma in the childhoods of 87% of those with BPD means emotional dysregulation. They need to learn in therapy to understand where that comes from and to regulate their own emotions.
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The MasterClasses that I will make available at cost, that will be very in depth, will be on BPD, the BPD/Codependent Dynamic, Surviving a BPD or NPD Relationship Breakup, and will include in depth information for those hurt by a Narcissist, adult children of a Narcissistic or Borderline Parent, family members, and siblings or friends and favorite people. In depth, MasterClasses to inform and educate you.
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5 Key Cognitive Biases relevant for survivors of a Narcissist or any other Cluster B. This is must know information for harm reduction & healing. Cognitive Bias keeps people stuck in toxic relationships and also causes people to not recognize quickly enough other Cluster B's in family, at work, or in life.
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Men Surviving A BPD Relationship Breakup The Pain Of Men and Healing
Men, hurt, abused, traumatized by each by a woman with Borderline Personality need to find support and help through this pain. I work with and help many men to understand, to find a safe, validating, process to not only process and heal but to more fully grow into and through what it means to feel your pain, experience vulnerability and learn, if you don't know already, that crying, hurting, feeling your vulnerability makes each man a stronger man and there is no shame in the real feelings of each man left in heartache and a world of pain.by a woman in his life with BPD.
http://ajmahari.ca/contact - Sessions available. I work with men, and have been all of my career. I work with women too, but I specialize in helping men heal not only their pain but old stigmatized painful societal expectations and "beliefs" that men are "not supposed to cry" or men are "weak if they feel feelings" - The truth is, feeling your feelings and expressing your vulnerability, if not right now, will become such a strength for you and each man needs to be supported, validated, and reminded that you are NEVER less of a man for feeling your pain, processing and healing your pain. Each man abused and traumatized by a borderline woman needs that.
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BPD Ex or Lived One - In pain? Confused? Wondering why they do what they do?
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Update - I am outta Narc-ville!! It is wonderful. I realize from this experience of mine just how crucial it is to get away from any Narc.
The sooner, the better! They all do damage. They all stress. And for so many the Narcissist traumatizes. The only way to heal and recover or get back to a solidly healthy place - as in my recent experience - is to break free of the Narcissist in whatever type of relationship or proximity.
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