All that I left behind... Stef, do you think standard (not excessive; not a beating) corporal punishment can be responsible for teen and adult children subconsciously seeking physically abusive relationships? What about self harm, such a cutting oneself? In my American Deep South culture, most parents whip and spank their kids, but not all of us turn out this way. Thank you. what are your thoughts on government funded therapist, people have told me that government funded therapists are phosticated hierarchy gangs that pray on peoples weaknesses to be happy. Are there personality/psychological profiles for certain careers? For instance, women who go into the sex/porn industry were likely to have been sexually abused as children, but are there less obvious career choices that possibly have red flags? And how could I go about researching this? I have found Practical Anarchy and Everyday Anarchy on your site. How do I find Achieving Anarchy? since bomb in the brain what are some of the things you have discovered about child hood amnesia and have you found ways to reverse it. Stef, what's the difference between anger and hate? Can we say any of them is inherently good or bad? What's the best argument (if any) against the thesis that we should limit the spread of something like hate? Stef, how do you know someone loves you? And specifically, how does a child know their parent loves them? do you think it is hypocritical for people to judge people who were coerced to get the covid injections on the basis they were risking their lives when the people judging are paying tax so forfeiting part of their life to the state anyway? Is this a valid equivalence? Hello and Merry Christmas Stefan! I was wondering if you could help me understand something: on a recent call in (with that Finnish girl who moved to Australia) you talked about how once you confront your abuser and start to assert your own needs and preferences, that they begin to see you not just an inanimate object into which they can pour their abuse, but as a real person who they have terribly hurt (you used the kitten in the pillow analogy). This is one reason why being confronted in such a way is so painful for the abuser. (Please correct me if I have misunderstood!) I thought that that was a really insightful and useful thing to explain, but it then made me wonder how that fits together with what you have said about how abusive people (usually) aren’t ignorant or misguided of the evil they do, as is often claimed, because they consciously hide their behaviour from public scrutiny; they purposely keep it behind closed doors. I was wondering how these two explanations (which I realize are not explaining the exact same thing) can be applicable to the same person. The first one seems to recognize that the abuser is somewhat unaware of the hurt they have done, but the second one shows how they are fully aware that what they are doing is morally inexcusable and abusive. I look forward to hearing what you have to say! Thanks. is the current Tech field worth getting into or has wokism overtaken everything virtuous about the field? how does one balance the desire to help others while also realizing so many people refuse to be helped? At what point does it become selfish and futile? Isn’t trying to choose a woman for marriage who will not be corrupted by the state power of divorce & family court like trying to choose a dictator who will not be corrupted by general state power?