Can't Breakup with a Borderline? Need to Make it Make Sense?
Can't Breakup with a Borderline? Need to Make it Make Sense?
You can't wait to breakup with a borderline until you make it make sense. Really no matter how much you learn about BPD it isn't really going to make rational logical sense. Trying to make it make sense also fuels your false hope. No contact is your way forward.
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What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD - the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn't about protection at all as such. It is also not dependent upon what the borderline, narcissist, or sociopath/psychopath does. It is something that is your responsibility and that you have the personal power to do.
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Codependency has its roots in childhood. Codependents are targeted by Narcissists, often have Toxic relationships with a person with BPD.
People with Borderline Personality can also be codependent. It is not your fault if you are codependent. It will help you out of so much pain if you seek healing to resolve any codependency.
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BPD Relationships Objects In The Mirror Codependents Dating or Married To a BPD
Objects in the mirror try to be so much closer then they ever are. Objects in the mirror, people with BPD that look for their own reflection of identity have their view or you blocked or skewed - for those who are Codependents whether still in the relationship or an ex of a borderline you are but a mere object in their mirror reflection of an identity unknown.
Ex of BPD or a BPD Loved one in a relationship with a pw/BPD? Objects in the mirror appear way closer than they are. Differently, for both the codependent and the Borderline the Mirror images of self get distorted.
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BPD Relationships Objects In The Mirror Codependents Dating or Married To a BPD
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Recycling After BPD Breakup - Cycles Of Pain Increasing exponentially. Relationship Re-cycling speeds up each time - these relationships don’t work. Codependents need to make the first breakup the last!
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Borderline Personality The Friend or Favorite Person Zone is Very Unhealthy
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Being a friend of someone with Borderline Personality or their Favorite Person is not healthy for you. People with BPD are still subconsciously looking for identity though you. Borderlines don't respect a friend's boundaries and they need you. They can not be healthy friends. Ex's of BPD cannot be friends with a borderline either and it is counter-productive in co-parenting too.
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Why is it, how could it be that the covert narcissist is the most wounding and hurtful of narcissists? Covert narcissists are sneaky and hurt you in very difficult to detect ways even more so than overt narcissists. For most who are hurt by a covert narcissist, you can only "get it "after all the hurt etc has been done to you. And even then, the cognitive dissonance is even more profoundly agonizing.
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Loving a Borderline - Who Is The Borderline You Love?
Loving a borderline? Who is the borderline you love? Think about that. Loving a borderline is often caretaking for the borderline while losing yourself more and more. Relationships with people with Borderline Personality (especially untreated) are not healthy, there is no reciprocity or mutuality. Your needs aren't met. You continue to self-abandon to try to fix, rescue, make the borderline aware, get them to therapy. Who is that borderline that you love who does not have a known self - no stable sense of self and who can't see you or love or attach to you because they have no container of self.
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Borderline Personality Relationships Trauma Bonds and what Codependents need to know.
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Borderline Personality is a response to trauma in humanistic psychology that doesn't echo the pseudoscience of psychiatry in the false construct of "mental illness or mental disorder". Codependents aren't merely "seduced" by a woman or man with BPD. You are (subconsciously) an active participant in what is the forming of a trauma bond. That doesn't mean you are the same as someone with the trauma response known as BPD. But in these trauma bonds, though not 50/50 trauma goes both ways. Unconscious choices are made by each person that is part of a trauma bond.
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BPD Idealization Phase Connected To Infantile Needs
The BPD idealization phase in beginning to date and/or that BPD rush to relationship is connected to and motivated by unmet and unresolved BPD infantile needs.
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