A while ago, I read a quote which went something like this: "It doesn't matter whose fault it is, what matters is whose responsibility it is to fix it." I've had more than my share of moments where I pointed fingers and blamed the people in my life for things that happened. It's easy to do this when the outcome isn't favorable. It's easy to find who is at fault. The harder part, I think - and the more useful part - is looking at the situation, accepting it's not favorable, and taking action to repair it. Whether is a job loss, a failed marriage, a health scare, a damaged business - in the end, who is at fault doesn't matter as much as who is responsible to repair it. Does this mean no one is at fault and that everything is your responsibility? The budding stoic in me wants to scream YES! But I'm aware that there are too many cases when the situation was clearly out of your hands. How do you deal with moments like this? How do you reframe it to take responsibility? Let's talk about it. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhmT6eDVulg

Sign up to Medium using my referral link: https://kamga.medium.com/membership Your membership fee directly supports me and other writers you read. You'll also get full access to every story on Medium. Here's a link to the article: https://kamga.medium.com/i-cant-find-a-partner-cfac145783b8 How to Love My Single Life - I Can't Find a Partner? I got married to my high-school sweetheart. Technically, we met in high school and knew each other for over a decade before I popped the question and she said yes. We were on two different continents. For various reasons, our marriage didn’t last as long as we’d hoped. After that marriage, I chose to be single. Not just to mourn over the death of that relationship, but to face a lot of what came out during that marriage. --- Thank you for taking the time to watch this video. Kamga's the name. Moved from Cameroon to the US in 2018. I speak English and French. I love books, stoicism, and ideas. I'm in the pursuit of meaning in the work that I do, and connection with the world around me. I love writing - I think a lot; writing helps me clear things. I share what I know here in the hopes you'll find it relevant to your life. I'm on a mission to create a world where everyone does work that matters to them and makes them feel a part of the whole. SHOP MY MERCH!  https://kamgas-store.myteespring.co/ Let's connect :  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kamgatchassa MY BOOKS : When A Boy Loves you - (Bandcamp) - https://kamga.bandcamp.com/   (Gumroad): https://gumroad.com/l/WABLY1  The Art and Science of Scribbling Ideas (Amazon) - https://amzn.to/3ogP7JW  CAMERA GEAR :  Main: https://amzn.to/3hwYmTW  Attach other canon lenses to your M50: https://amzn.to/384yRpX  Lenses: 1. Canon EF-M 15-45mm f/3.5-6.3 - https://amzn.to/3b47TRn 2. (FAVE) Canon EF-M 22mm f2 STM - https://amzn.to/2KPQLnz  3.YONGNUO YN35mm F2 Lens 1:2 AF/MF Wide-Angle Fixed/Prime Auto Focus Lens - https://amzn.to/351IjbH  4.Canon EF 50mm f/1.8 STM Lens- https://amzn.to/351IjbH  AUDIO: 1.TAKSTAR MIC (Affordable and battery has lasted months!) https://amzn.to/3rGMyTH 2.BOYA MIC https://amzn.to/2LfhBWc Main Tripod: https://amzn.to/2MfsS9c Short tripod for (when live streaming with Camera): https://amzn.to/3n3BoVF Reflector: https://amzn.to/3n6fKA5 FAVE BOOKS:  1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho - https://amzn.to/3rIjJX5  2. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson - https://amzn.to/3mZspEN  3. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius - https://amzn.to/2X0Wb1y  4. Zero to One by Peter Thiel - https://amzn.to/3rLF8hU  5. The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco - https://amzn.to/2X2xku6  FAVE AUDIOBOOKS  Get them FREE with an Audible Premium Trial using this link https://amzn.to/3pKhSPT :  1. Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell - https://amzn.to/385fBsy  2. Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins https://amzn.to/38QeThR  TOOLS & SERVICES I USE:  1. Love music? Get ONE FREE Month of Musicbed where I get my tracks https://www.musicbed.com/invite/OZjRx  2. Keyword research tool for YouTube (TubeBuddy) MASSIVE time-saver https://www.tubebuddy.com/kamgabuddy  3. Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial: https://amzn.to/3pEqLu9  4. Kindle Unlimited Membership Plans (Get Your First Month FREE): https://amzn.to/3rCpCoC  5. Get two months Premium of SkillShare for FREE- https://skl.sh/2lijqof Subscribe to my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOMbXuSz61YlU3P5kF6KDEA?view_as=subscriber  Affiliate Disclaimer: Links included in this description could be affiliate links. If you purchase a product or service with the links that I provide I may receive a small commission. Note that there is no additional charge to you. Thank you for supporting this channel, so I can continue to provide you with free content every single week! Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. ALL RIGHTS BELONG TO THEIR RESPECTIVE OWNERS ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFw6wyuQxSw

2015 ended with my graduation from college and a long stretch of months during which I felt lost and confused. It was also the year I connected with Anne Marie and we started "Self-ish" on Medium. Today, we no longer run that magazine. But the result of that project is that we both found our voices and supported each other during tough times. it was an amazing journey to authentic self discovery. In today's video, I share a chat with my wife where she gives her perspective on the subject and some ideas drawing from her life. I'm super nervous in this video. Part of my current journey to finding my truth is to delve into what makes me uncomfortable ( without killing me) and letting evolution happen. If you're interested in seeing how Anne Marie has evolved, you can find her beautiful writing here: http://mesdigressions.com/ Here's her podcast, which I also highly recommend: https://mesdigressions.com/category/episodes/ ----: Subscribe to the channel: http://bit.ly/2MsLfFk Subscribe to my Podcast on SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/tchassakamga Paypal Donations: https://www.paypal.me/tchassakamga - Get $5 for FREE when you sign-up today to start investing with Acorns https://www.acorns.com/invite/PE4QGB Get ONE FREE STOCK with Robinhood when you sign-up with my link - https://join.robinhood.com/fnuh77 Get two months Premium of SkillShare for FREE- https://skl.sh/2lijqof Buy my Audiobook on Gumroad: https://gumroad.com/l/WABLY1 Become a Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/kamgatchassa Subscribe to my weekly newsletter: https://kamga.substack.com/subscribe? -- Connect with me: http://twitter.com/tchassakamga http://medium.com/tchassakamga https://instagram.com/tchassakamga Disclaimer: all opinions are my own, sponsors are acknowledged whenever there are. Links in the description are typically affiliate links that let you help support me and the channel at no extra cost to you. Tags: kamga, cameroonian, cameroonian writer, kamga tchassa, cameroonian youtuber, the loving creative podcast, how to be authentic, how to be your authentic self, being authentic, staying true to yourself, how to be yourself, self help, finding yourself, conversations with my wife, interview with my wife, relationships, how to know if you want a relationship, life coaching, your authentic self, how to be true to yourself, being yourself, being your best self, cameroonian podcast ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pIMkIzNgDQ

In this video, we're going to discuss what you should do when trying to help/talk to someone who is grieving. If you're trying to help someone who is coping with a loss, this video is for you. We'll discuss what to do (in my experience) and the kind of attitude that can help during this difficult time. I hope this video can help you feel more prepared during the grieving process. The podcast - https://anchor.fm/a-dose-of-perspective-pod --- Thank you for taking the time to watch this video. Kamga's the name. Moved from Cameroon to the US in 2018. I speak English and French. I love books, stoicism, and ideas. I'm in the pursuit of meaning in the work that I do, and connection with the world around me. I love writing - I think a lot; writing helps me clear things. I share what I know here in the hopes you'll find it relevant to your life. I'm on a mission to create a world where everyone does work that matters to them and makes them feel a part of the whole. SHOP MY MERCH!  https://kamgas-store.myteespring.co/ Let's connect :  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kamgatchassa MY BOOKS : When A Boy Loves you - (Bandcamp) - https://kamga.bandcamp.com/   (Gumroad): https://gumroad.com/l/WABLY1  The Art and Science of Scribbling Ideas (Amazon) - https://amzn.to/3ogP7JW  CAMERA GEAR :  Main: https://amzn.to/3hwYmTW  Attach other canon lenses to your M50: https://amzn.to/384yRpX  Lenses: 1. Canon EF-M 15-45mm f/3.5-6.3 - https://amzn.to/3b47TRn 2. (FAVE) Canon EF-M 22mm f2 STM - https://amzn.to/2KPQLnz  3.YONGNUO YN35mm F2 Lens 1:2 AF/MF Wide-Angle Fixed/Prime Auto Focus Lens - https://amzn.to/351IjbH  4.Canon EF 50mm f/1.8 STM Lens- https://amzn.to/351IjbH  AUDIO: 1.TAKSTAR MIC (Affordable and battery has lasted months!) https://amzn.to/3rGMyTH 2.BOYA MIC https://amzn.to/2LfhBWc Main Tripod: https://amzn.to/2MfsS9c Short tripod for (when live streaming with Camera): https://amzn.to/3n3BoVF Reflector: https://amzn.to/3n6fKA5 FAVE BOOKS:  1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho - https://amzn.to/3rIjJX5  2. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson - https://amzn.to/3mZspEN  3. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius - https://amzn.to/2X0Wb1y  4. Zero to One by Peter Thiel - https://amzn.to/3rLF8hU  5. The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco - https://amzn.to/2X2xku6  FAVE AUDIOBOOKS  Get them FREE with an Audible Premium Trial using this link https://amzn.to/3pKhSPT :  1. Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell - https://amzn.to/385fBsy  2. Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins https://amzn.to/38QeThR  TOOLS & SERVICES I USE:  1. Love music? Get ONE FREE Month of Musicbed where I get my tracks https://www.musicbed.com/invite/OZjRx  2. Keyword research tool for YouTube (TubeBuddy) MASSIVE time-saver https://www.tubebuddy.com/kamgabuddy  3. Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial: https://amzn.to/3pEqLu9  4. Kindle Unlimited Membership Plans (Get Your First Month FREE): https://amzn.to/3rCpCoC  5. Get two months Premium of SkillShare for FREE- https://skl.sh/2lijqof Subscribe to my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOMbXuSz61YlU3P5kF6KDEA?view_as=subscriber  Affiliate Disclaimer: Links included in this description could be affiliate links. If you purchase a product or service with the links that I provide I may receive a small commission. Note that there is no additional charge to you. Thank you for supporting this channel, so I can continue to provide you with free content every single week! Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. ALL RIGHTS BELONG TO THEIR RESPECTIVE OWNERS ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jjix-e-EcE