Geoffrey Miller | The Art of Dating Signals - Art of Charm Ep. #759
Dating can seem like a torturous uphill battle for many men and women, but it doesn’t have to be - understanding how and why we are attracted to one another can have a significant positive impact on your ability to find happiness in your love life, but how do you take the science behind attraction and use it to make dating fun and engaging?
#geoffreymiller #eveolutionarysignals #artofcharm
What to Listen For -What is signaling theory? -What are fitness indicators and why are they so important to understand in the dating scenario? -What scientifically is shown to make you more attractive in terms of signaling? -How much of our behavior is guided by natural selection and what does the answer imply about humanity? -When you want to dance in a social setting, what is more important than being able to dance well? -What are many people doing wrong when it comes to their profiles on dating apps? -What should you include in your dating app profile? -Should you get professional photos done to use on dating apps? -Why are we entering a new era of dating and what can you do to ensure you’re able to adapt? -Why is working out a crucial foundation to start with when it comes to working on yourself from a self-development perspective? -What is a tender defender and why should you aspire to it? -What does it mean to stay true to yourself and how might you be interpreting it in a way that sabotages your behavior? -As a parent, how do you create an environment for your child to develop grit, success, and resilience when they reach the dating age?
Remember that you are alive today because every one of your ancestors was able to find a partner and start a family. You have the genetics to find the relationship you want, but it will likely take work to find it. Not only is it important for you to want to work on yourself for the sake of striving to be the best version of yourself, but it’s also important for potential partners to see that in you, so they know you are open to new ideas and experiences as well as always wanting to work on being the best partner.
What are the misconceptions about success?
In today’s episode, we cover being an awesome human with Nataly Kogan. Nataly is a former writer for Verywell Mind, the co-founder and CEO of Happier, a leading wellness company on a mission to make millions of people happier, and the author of The Awesome Human Project.
Burnout can be a deadly trap you don’t recognize until the damage is done, so what can you do to avoid it (and still be successful), how does perfectionism make it worse, and how do you find your “why” so you can push through tough times and criticism?
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Kobe Bryant on Mamba Mentality https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
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David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
Top 5 Social Skills Toolbox Episodes
Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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In today’s episode, we cover social engineering with Christopher Hadnagy. Chris is an IT entrepreneur, IT security consultant, and the best-selling author of five books including his latest Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You.
Social engineering is an effective tool to get what you want, but what is social engineering, how can you use it to instantly build rapport with complete strangers, and what should you look for if you think someone is using it against you?
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Kobe Bryant on Mamba Mentality https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Jay Shetty on Overcoming Self Doubt https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Eric Weinstein on Overcoming Bias https://youtu.be/dQhOgwu2eZc
David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
Top 5 Social Skills Toolbox Episodes
Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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Is it actually possible to be friends with your ex? Amy Chan, the author of Breakup Bootcamp, explains when you can know for sure you're ready to transition from being your ex, to being friends
#breakups #amychan #artofcharm
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Kobe Bryant on Mamba Mentality https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Jay Shetty on Overcoming Self Doubt https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Eric Weinstein on Overcoming Bias https://youtu.be/dQhOgwu2eZc
David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
Top 5 Social Skills Toolbox Episodes
Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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Happiness is one of those ideas that has an endless number of quotes about where it comes from (and where it does not). We’ve heard many of them so many times we just wave them off and roll our eyes before jumping back on the hamster wheel and chasing the next piece of cheese, completely unaware of the trap we put ourselves in, but what does science say about what makes us happy, what do you need to start focusing on today in order to achieve your happiness, and what must you be aware of in order to give yourself the best chance of a long, healthy, and happy life?
#artofcharm #happiness #artofcharmtoolbox
What to Listen For
-Why is it so difficult for us as humans to determine what makes us happy?
-AJ explains why reaching milestones in life or attaining your goals does not equate to overall happiness
-How has technology seemingly put happiness further out of reach?
-Johnny explains how cognitive biases keep us from achieving true happiness
-What is “miswanting” and why do we constantly sabotage ourselves by doing it?
-What is the Harvard Study on Adult Development and how can you use the findings to achieve your own happiness?
-How are happiness & health connected and what can you start doing today so you don’t lose both?
-AJ explains why our focus on achievement as a society can be detrimental to our development when we’re young
-Why are relationships so beneficial to our health and how can you determine whether or not yours are?
-If you are lonely, why can it be more difficult to find the resources to build the connections science has shown to be so vital to our long term health and happiness?
-Why is rejection and the handling of it so valuable in today’s society, especially if you don’t want to be lonely and unhappy?
-What are the physiological benefits of spending time with people you care about?
There is an obvious reason reaching your goals or buying the next great thing does not bring you happiness - if only one thing in your life changes, the other 99% of your life is still the same. You can’t change one thing or achieve one thing or buy one thing and think it’s going to improve every other part of your life. Even if you could “upgrade” every part of your environment you’d still be the same person but with different surroundings, so if you’re not happy now, all those upgrades aren’t going to change who you are inside.
Resources from this Episode
Episode 738: What Defines Happiness: https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/738-happiness/
Harvard study, almost 80 years old, has proved that embracing community helps us live longer, and be happier: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/
Social Isolation in America: Changes in Core Discussion Networks over Two Decades: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/000312240607100301?ssource=mfc&rss=1&
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Kobe Bryant on Mamba Mentality https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Jay Shetty on Overcoming Self Doubt https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Eric Weinstein on Overcoming Bias https://youtu.be/dQhOgwu2eZc
David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
Top 5 Social Skills Toolbox Episodes
Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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The boys at Art of Charm have tackled this topic on the newest Toolbox episode.
Watch AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak as they discuss why social lives are collapsing in the modern world, who's to blame, and what you can do to build your social capital in a time where there's a social collapse.
Full Art of Charm Toolbox episode here: https://youtu.be/EKQThEE5evs
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Hosted by Jordan Harbinger.
Tom Bilyeu has lived life and realized success on what most would consider to be a circuitous route. Beginning as an aspiring (but, according to him, talentless) filmmaker, he fell into copywriting for shady-sounding entrepreneurs who turned out to be legitimate, and went into business with them as a co-founder of Quest Nutrition so he could "look like Wolverine."
Within five years, that company would be valued at over a billion dollars. After an amicable parting of ways with Quest Nutrition, he founded media company Impact Theory with his wife and hosts its accompanying podcast. Join us while Tom gives us a tour of his unique path, why he made certain choices along the way, and what he sees for his future. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
The Cheat Sheet:
Why the fastest way to learn is to teach.
Developing a growth mindset (per previous guest Carol Dweck) to avoid getting stuck doing one thing forever.
Escaping the depression of feeling like a talentless hack.
Why limiting his prospects made Tom feel better about himself in the short run -- and how he broke away from being "The King of Remedial Jobs."
How do we preserve a positive belief system in the face of what looks like contrary evidence?
And so much more...
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