While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g Show notes: HomeTrauma triggers you may have missed Trauma triggers you may have missed a 1 Diagnosing (misunderstood) Horrible feedback 2 Others' personalities (toxic) 3 Social confusion 4 Insecurity 5 Thoughtless people ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tcvP4RXyHtI

While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g Show notes: • Social issues Weddings and funerals Small talk • Sensory issues Clothing Texas Roadhouse Marketers appeal to your senses • Executive function Paying attention. Organizing, planning, and prioritizing. Starting tasks and staying focused on them to completion. Understanding different points of view. Regulating emotions. Self-monitoring (keeping track of what you're doing) • Inner speech Competing between your inner speech and outer stimuli Laugh or smile for no apparent reason ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smuYHPNUoP4

While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYo2kVtNgdJCjMKatl3Hg_g I don't give advice, explicitly or implicitly. Rather, I share opinions and ideas from life experience and autodidactic learning. If you need advice, it is my opinion that you consult a qualified professional. #autism #aspergerssyndrome #highfunctioningautism Show notes: Eliminate from your life 1 Validation from others I'm on display I can't accept myself if others don't accept me Validation is the recognition and acceptance of another person's thoughts, feelings, sensations, and behaviors as understandable. Self-validation is the recognition and acceptance of your own thoughts, feelings, sensations and behaviors as understandable. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201204/understanding-validation-way-communicate-acceptance 2 Over explaining yourself Why are you the way you are? Looking for approval 3 Unrealistic goals Time management What are you good at? 4 Unrealistic expectations This is a simple reality check should statements Expect to be disappointed 5 Negative comparisons Theodore Roosevelt called comparison “the thief of joy,” You to others Others to you 10 percent of our thoughts involve comparisons of some kind. Who cares? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/social-comparison-theory Do you know what your BMI is? 6 Gossip (negative) Human conversational behavior Try to be positive / create perceptions In fact, a 1993 observational study found that male participants spent 55% of conversation time and female participants spent 67% conversation time on “the discussion of socially relevant topics.” 7 Past relationships Limerence Psychologist Dorothy Tennov coined the term limerence in the early 1970s after conducting over 300 interviews to gather qualitative data on the experience of romantic love (1). Tennov noted a particular manifestation of “being in love” that many of her interviewees described in a similar way – an involuntary, overwhelming longing for another person's attention and positive regard. This attachment was typically unrequited, developing for someone unavailable to reciprocate feelings. 8 Anger (temper) It's difficult to be angry and rational Think of a horn on your car 9 Dysfunctional Perfectionism = frustration self and others 80/20 rule https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.4219/jsge-2000-631 Perfectionism, with its harshly negative self-talk, is felt to be a burden by most people who experience it. Despite this, a body of literature asserts that some perfectionism is healthy, even though a critical review of this literature finds no factual or theoretical basis for such a claim. The commonly asserted belief in a dichotomy between healthy and dysfunctional perfectionism is based on a misunderstanding of the nature of perfectionism, in part confusing the concept with striving for excellence, and has apparently arisen from uncritical acceptance of early work on the subject. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGhf6iivKdU

While you're thinking of it, please share this video on Facebook :-) Be sure to smash the THUMBS UP button!! Subscribe and CLICK THE BELL to receive upload reminders More on Asperger's Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YL8Uw3anjLo&list=PLyMzTz301QVx4DyktIi5OBPlP8c03LfF- More on Narcissism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CadnytkqDKk&list=PLyMzTz301QVxr0yvW47ev6l8m1jPKagbO SHOW NOTES... HomeOne thing every Aspie needs One thing every Aspie needs I have a qualified physician, a qualified accountant, a qualified financial advisor, a qualified neurologist, a qualified cardiologist, a qualified urologist, a qualified physical therapist, a qualified lawyer (actually I have several friends who are attorneys), and a qualified auto mechanic. I also have a qualified therapist. Why is that the one thing every Aspie needs? Consider... 1. What's at stake: Most everything about us hinges on our mental health. If your mental health is out of alignment, everything about you is skewed. You may find your relationships strained, your employment difficult if not impossible, and even your health potentially impaired across the board. 2. There is no substitute. Granted, podcasts including YouTube can be useful and insightful. They can help keep you focused. But they are no substitute for a qualified therapist. 3. Individual attention. A qualified therapist knows you from the perspective of a healer. Granted, friends and family also know you, but they know you from a different perspective. 4. Personal interaction. A therapist talks with you to know how to talk to you. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UE0ETbX6PQk