I’m not against celebrating someone’s birthday. I think it’s nice to wish someone a happy birthday. But what I am against is forced gift-buying and socialisation, especially in the office environment.
I had my first experience of forced gifting during my second stint in Japan. I went over as part of a group of six Australian teachers to represent our city overseas. Each of us were assigned to a separate middle school, so we didn’t actually see each other on a day-to-day basis. However, one of the boys took it upon himself to arrange a weekly social gathering – just with us Australians. It went okay for a couple of months, but slowly as we settled down in Japan, we began to have our own lives.
Girls got boyfriends, boys got girlfriends, and our little social group became a less frequent occurrence. Anyway, the same guy who had originally arranged these groups decided it would be a good idea to celebrate each other’s birthdays. So he went around and found out everyone’s birth date and started planning the first party (which happened to be for the other guy). He asked each of the other members for some money to pay for the party and to buy a gift. I went along with it, as it was our first little party together, so I didn’t want to rock the boat.
But it wasn’t cheap. He asked for ¥5000 from each of us, so like $50 or $60. So in total, he was planning to spend like $300 on this little do ...
This went on for a year until I finally had my “surprise” birthday celebration. The gang had got together and bought me a Japanese boy-band CD – I think the band was called Glay, or something like that ...
The next round of birthdays came around the following year. I already had a steady girlfriend by that time, and had my own social life. I really wasn’t interested in doing this Australian round-robin gift-buying thing anymore ...
In hindsight, I probably should have just gone along with it as our work contracts were only for two years ...
A few years later, I got my first real office job in Brisbane. I was put into a programming team of about 20 individuals ...
Anyway, during my first week on the team, a couple of the ladies came around collecting $5 from each of us to buy something nice for Susie’s birthday. I didn’t want to rock the boat, so I paid ...
The following week, the ladies came round again and asked for another $5 ...
The following week came round, and as seemed to be their custom, the ladies approached me asking for more money. This time, they wanted $10! ...
The next week, a cake was wheeled in – this time a bigger cake ...
Over the following month, a couple of more birthdays occurred. Again, I begrudgingly handed over my $5 ...
Anyway, Jenny’s farewell card came around to be signed by everyone. The perso
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