This is one reason it's so easy for narcissists to be so cruel and hurtful to you. Narcissists are unbelievably mean sometimes, and it's hard to understand why. As it turns out, it could all be related to a Freudian theory called object constancy. In this video, I'll fill you in on the theory and explain why it tends to explain very specifically why narcissists are so cruel. People with NPD and other cluster b disorders are known to struggle with object constancy and it's something that may be attributed to their own childhoods - likely involving invalidation very early in life. Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: vid.io/xoJJ On this channel, I offer free daily video coaching to help you discover, understand and overcome narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships! I like to call it toxic relationship rehab. If that sounds good to you, hit that subscribe button. **LIVE EVERY TUESDAY! Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! If you enjoyed this video, please subscribe to my channel! http://youtube.com/angieatkinson Schedule a coaching appointment with me at http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Learn more at http://queenbeeing.com. Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, schedule a coaching appointment and/or pick up your free 5-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic abuse survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/span. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinson ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WYq3PGdWELk

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Join the QueenBeeing Universibee - the online learning and evolution center for narcissistic abuse survivors. You'll really thrive when you join this hive! Join up at http://vid.io/xcxV today! Narcissists Using Self Injury as Manipulation to the Narcissistic Supply: Do narcissists use self-injury to manipulate their victims? One of my SPAN members wonders whether I've seen narcissists do this odd thing called self-punishment. Her question, in short: Have you ever researched the link between narcissism and self-punishment? Has anyone experienced self punishment in narcissistic behavior? My first response Initially, I told my SPAN member that I have seen this behavior, especially in regard to narcissistic injury. She replied: It happens everytime when he's injured. And, by the way, his parents used to beat him up when he had done anything wrong. So maybe there's a link there as well. My narc does this instead of hoovering. It's his way of making things right. And I think maybe it's his way of discarding me on some level - an excuse for emotional distance and not taking responsibility for anything and at the end feeling like a victim. Yes, that's confusing for sure, right? Have you been there? I'm going to answer her questions and fill you in on how it all works in this video. In the Go Ask Angie series, I respond to questions, comments and concerns sent to me by my YouTube viewers, readers from my QueenBeeing.com site and those who reach out in other ways, such as by email. If you enjoyed this video, please subscribe to my channel! http://youtube.com/angieatkinson Schedule a coaching appointment with me at http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Learn more at http://queenbeeing.com. Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, schedule a coaching appointment and/or pick up your free 5-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic abuse survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7D2FZJ2mbw