BPD Ex Confusion About No Contact & A J Mahari a Former Borderline Shares Inside Out Experience
BPD Ex Confusion About No Contact & A J Mahari a Former Borderline Shares Her Inside Out Experience
A commenter expressed being confused about what I had shared about my past BPD experience and what I was recommending for others about no contact and not trying to be friends with an Ex with BPD.
In this video I go on to talk a bit more about my past BPD Experience and how it is where some of my core content insight and deep understanding of BPD comes from. I am a former "Borderline" and I was labeled not assessed and diagnosed properly. I had 4 strong traits of BPD and did experience the arrested emotional development and trauma bonds with both Cluster B parents. I recovered (yes for real!) in 1990 and was told that via the out-going -after therapy - assessment and didn't just (as wild stories on the internet claim) ever just say "I cured myself from BPD". BPD does not need psychiatry's "defined" (not really) and never-coming "cure". People with BPD can heal and recover fully - the prognosis in certain modalities for people with BPD is excellent. The biggest tragedy is so many with BPD or strong traits of won't go and get help or treatment at all.
I have said many times in the 28 years I've been working online it's in your best interest to focus on the person in your life or who was in your life with BPD and if they remain undiagnosed and/or diagnosed and untreated, that is vastly different from my path and journey which formally re therapy etc ended in 1990.
Borderline *You Owe Me* Originates From Fragile Based Entitlement
The Borderline (untreated) you owe me far from what it looks like often comes from a fragile based primal woundedness.
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Borderline *You Owe Me* Originates From Fragile Based Entitlement
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BPD Breakup Codependent Survival Strategy & Externalized Control Keep You Stuck
A commenter suggests his version of a strategy to survive a BPD relationship breakup that is his Codependent externalized defences to meet his safety needs and more. (Likely from an unaware unconscious wounded place inside) In healing Codependency in a formal process Codependents need to learn more about the control under all the externalized out “giving” and self-abandonment.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T0a_Cq9B974
Do you feel "not good enough"? Do you feel unworthy? Are you avoiding what you need to heal and/or recovery from? Be with what rises from within you and honour it with stillness, reflection, and a readiness to face what hurts inside. You are worthy simply because you ARE! Find you way to knowing your worth, self-love, and that you are ENOUGH.
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Men After BPD Breakups A.J. Mahari Q & A | International Conference Men's Issues
Some questions asked of me were from men who had been in painful relationships with a woman with BPD or NPD. Men also asked about how to tell if it was their fault or them or not.
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Ebook: “The Shadows & Echos of Self - False Self in BPD”
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Ebook: “Punishment & Revenge in BPD”
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Ebook: “The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD”
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Ebook: “BPD & Rage”
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Are you wondering but not sure if someone in your life or who was in your life was a borderline or a co-morbid BPD/NPD? What do your gut instincts have to do with it? Lots. One way to know, to begin to help you gather more understanding is the level to which you are losing yourself and how incredibly much that hurts.
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Borderline Inability To Communicate Tennis Anyone?
Borderline inability to communicate tennis anyone refers to how I compare trying to play tennis with a borderline to trying to seriously be understood in communicating with someone with untreated Borderline Personality.
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Ghosted By a BPD | Can you Be Idealized Again?
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Response to a man devalued & ghosted by a BPD girlfriend "Can I stop her from walking away?" "Can I get her back to idealizing me?" He asks in a comment on a video of mine. I speak this painful reality in so people's lives and many of them are men.
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Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups
A.J. Mahari on BPD inside out
Both sides of BPD
Understanding Borderline Personality
Ghosted by a borderline
Can borderlines love
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Codependents deny that the Narcissist's hate is hate - hope for love that can never be known by or with or received at all from a Narcissist.
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Borderlines Using Codependents - What Are Codependents Doing?
Borderlines using Codependents as "Object Other Parent Representation" unconsciously. What are Codependents doing in these relationships? Borderlines use Codependents and in their own unconscious way Codependents "use" borderlines. Unhealthy bonds and impossible relational dynamics.
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