LOCUS OF CONTROL / AUTHORITY SORT / RESPONSIBILITY How do you know if something is true or not? Do you go along with the group or do you make your own process of inquiry? Should people be allowed to question facts? Welfare Does welfare create a dependence upon welfare? Does welfare create wealth or poverty? Should there be conditions on receiving welfare? If so, then what conditions? Should it be okay to live your life on welfare? At The Beach When you go to the beach whose responsibility is it to keep you safe? Yours or the Lifeguard? Would you rather live in a country where the government provides everything, food, home, job, income, health cover, etc but no personal freedom to choose your occupation and the hours that you work – and no choice of where you live. Or would you rather live in a country where nothing is provided for free – you have to demonstrate initiative – you have to work hard for your money with no minimum wage – and you accept the risks? Political Correctness What do you think about Political Correctness? What is more important – avoiding offending, insulting or hurting someone’s feelings – or protecting your family and friends? Is it more important to criticise what is wrong with our world or to focus on improving upon what already works? ABOUT WHY WHAT DO These conversations are an opportunity to gain an understanding of why people do what they do. Every action is driven by a thought – so to change behaviour we need to understand what it is that drives and motivates people. We can gain an understanding of that structure by mapping out values and meta programs. Meta Programs are perceptual filters that generally operate out of conscious awareness. They filter perception and determine your preferences in how you think, feel and act. For example, making a decision based upon feelings versus facts and logic is a meta program. Values work in a similar fashion to meta programs in that they create a frame, a focus, a perceptual filter. Values determine every decision that you make but how you go about making the decision will be based upon your meta programs. By learning how to recognise values and meta programs we can begin to understand why people do what they do. In doing so we can begin the process of mapping out the structure of peace and reconciliation throughout the world. WHY WHAT DO INTERVIEW Host: Abby Eagle Guest: James Darby Profession: Stop the Mosque Campaigner Address: Gold Coast Australia CHECK THESE LINKS 1. Create the next best version of yourself in the NLP Future Selfing online course https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-future-selfing.php 2. Take a look at NLP Peace Mapping - a course in investigative journalism https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-peace-mapping.php 3. See my method of inquiry: http://www.abbyeagle.com/nlp-coaching-resources/nlp-peace-mapping.php ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You can find Abby Eagle at https://www.abbyeagle.com NLP Coaching, Hypnotherapy and Meditation Gold Coast, Australia ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgJB_xzYVvM

Visit this page: https://www.abbyeagle.com/nlp-hypnotherapy/public-speaking-confidence.php Book a free 20 minute Skype or Zoom session. Email Abby Eagle from https://www.abbyeagle.com How to build confidence in public speaking, on stage and in the board room - using NLP and Hypnotherapy and a bit of Meditation Practice. Anxiety From An NLP Perspective A lot of people experience anxiety, and to varying degrees. Typically anxiety is about something that has not happened and what the person is doing is building a cinema in their mind of what might go wrong in the future. The more dramatic the internal representation, the stronger the internal dialogue, the bigger and brighter the movie then the more intense the feelings. In some cases the internal state may be strong enough to cause the person to freeze. Which is pretty amazing when you think about it because if you can create an intense negative state then you can create an intense resourceful state. NLP Techniques Put You in The Drivers Seat What you have to understand is that anxiety is not something that happens to you. You are the one who gives the meaning to the event. You are the one who create the images, the internal dialogue and the feelings. And that means that you can learn how to move from the back seat into the drivers seat of your mind, so to speak – and create internal representations that work for you rather than against you. NLP TimeLine is a Powerful Tool Anxiety in most cases is a feeling about a future event. It is not unusual for people to feel anxious about an event and when it is all over they wonder why they got anxious in the first place. My job as a NLP Coach is to map out the structure of how you create the anxious feeling. For each person it will be different. NLP - the Zone and Flow States In some cases anxiety may just be about lack of experience. When people seek help in gaining confidence to speak to a group, what they are really asking for, is how to get into the zone, how to get into a flow state. Now a flow state is defined as an optimal state of consciousness in which you feel at your best and perform at your best. If the task is too small then you don’t get enough energy going to perform well. On the other hand if the task is way beyond your capability then you may go into overload and panic. The task needs to be a stretch but not too much of a stretch. Anxiety also tends to happen when there are just too many unknowns, for example. - Not knowing what is expected of you? - Not knowing what you are allowed to do? - Concerns about what might happen and what might go wrong. - Concerns that you might forget what to say or not know what to say. - Concerns about what others might say and do. - Worried about how others might react or judge you. - Worried about whether you will be liked or rejected. The frames of mind that you bring to an event play a big part in whether you feel confident or anxious. What are frames of mind? Attitudes, values, beliefs, memories and expectations. For example, a University Graduate I worked with scored top of his class and so he was in demand as a guest speaker at various functions – and even though he knew his topic inside out he felt anxious when speaking to a group of undergraduates. Why? Because he wanted admiration from the audience. He was constantly checking to see if the students were giving him admiration. Not knowing what their blank stares meant he would freeze and make an excuse that he had to make a phone call, and thus leave the room. The first step should be to build rapport – that is a sense of trust and liking for each other. There is an art to building rapport but essentially you are sorting for sameness, looking for something that you share, whether that be the way that you dress, the way that you hold your body, or the concepts and words that you use. A frame that I find useful to get me into state is curiosity. Curiosity takes the attention off of yourself and puts it onto the other – and gets you asking questions that engage the listener. And as you engage members of the audience they begin to feel acknowledged and validated – and they will relax and warm up to you. You will see this on their face, the way that they move and how they speak back to you. I also find that playfulness is a useful frame of mind. It does not mean that I act silly but that I put aside seriousness and am looking for every opportunity to be friendly. In doing so you take the attention off of yourself and put it squarely back onto the audience. CHECK THIS LINK Learn how to step into the next best version of yourself in the Future Selfing Online NLP Course https://www.abbyeagle.com/myshop/proddetail.php?prod=OC-01 FIND ABBY EAGLE ON FACEBOOK GROUP https://www.facebook.com/groups/339226860090869/ ___________________________________________ NLP Coaching, Hypnotherapy and Meditation Gold Coast, Australia ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDtRzWHuTV8

https://www.abbyeagle.com/nlp-coaching-resources/values.php Book a free 20 minute Skype or Zoom session. Email Abby Eagle from https://www.abbyeagle.com In this video I am going to show you how to elicit your own value systems. We hear people talk about values but what are values? Values are frames of mind that motivate you towards or away-from a behaviour. As such the more you know about them then the more you have control over your own destiny. Eliciting values is fun and it reveals an awful lot about why you do what you. So if you want to be an amazing success in manifesting your dreams then listen carefully. I might suggest that it could be a good idea for you to pause the video at various stages so that you can take some notes – because this is a do-it-yourself values elicitation video. Okay so take a piece of paper and have pen in hand. Values are context dependent. That means you have to elicit values for each context that is relevant. Some contexts are life, relationships, career, business, health, sport – even down to buying a product such as a car – or going on a date. In some cases we call them values – in others we call them criteria. Either way they influence the decisions that you make or don’t make. How To Elicit Values i.e. How to Find Your Values Start by deciding upon a relevant context. In the following example the context is ‘career’. We start by asking the question: what is important to you in an ‘x’? Where ‘x’ is the context. So in this case we ask the 43 old female client, what is important to you in a career? Now keep in mind that the secret to accurate values elicitation is to ask intelligent questions and answer them honestly, without interpretation or rationalisation by the conscious mind. Typically we take the first thing the person says. Which could be a single word like ‘family’ or a phrase like ‘helping people’. Write down the exact words that the person says – don’t paraphrase and reinterpret what they say or you will mess it up. The same goes for eliciting your own values – just write down the exact thought that comes to mind. So in the example below I asked the question: what is important to you in a career and she says ‘respect’. So I write down the word ‘respect’. Then I ask and what else is important to you in a career? And she answers ‘helping people’. So I write that down under the word respect. Then I ask and what else is important to you in a career and she replies, ‘being a good team leader’. So I add that to the list. So you keep on asking the question, what is important to you in a career until she runs out of answers. And then ask and what are the emotions that are important for you to experience on a consistent basis. Write down the answers. Watch the video... CHECK THESE LINKS 1. NLP Coaching Resources https://www.abbyeagle.com/nlp-coaching-resources/ 2. Discover the next best version of yourself in the NLP Future Selfing online course https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-future-selfing.php 3. Learn how to challenge everything for the truth in the NLP Peace Mapping online course https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-peace-mapping.php 4. Join the NLP, Hypnotherapy & Meditation Group https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-hypnotherapy-group.php ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Abby Eagle NLP Coaching, Hypnotherapy and Meditation Gold Coast, Australia ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Hd3QYTfRyM

Visit this page: http://www.abbyeagle.com/nlp-coaching-resources/values.php Book a free 20 minute Skype or Zoom session. Email Abby Eagle from https://www.abbyeagle.com How to find your life's purpose using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). How to find meaning in life using NLP? How to build motivation using NLP communication model? Discover what is really important to you in life? Start by identifying what do you value? In this video, NLP Coach, Abby Eagle interviews Tara Hopkins, eliciting her values and mapping out the meaning - using NLP. Tara Hopkins was born in New Zealand and moved to Australia by herself when she was 18 years old. She is an actor and has been in a number of feature films and movies - Scooby Doo, Gettin Square and San Andres. She has also played in the TV series: Beast Master, The Outsiders and Mortified. Tara studied at The Actors Conservatory in Brisbane and graduated in 2010 with an advanced diploma. She continues to attend classes with her agent, Vox Talent. She is a mother of one, has explored Peru and a few other countries and believes that every different nation has something positive to offer. She currently drives a mobile food van to pay her bills however she desires to leave her mark somehow in her lifetime, to help bring about a positive change in perspective and consciousness. She's very passionate about thinking outside the square and believes in focusing on solutions rather than problems. Tara's frustrations lie with history repeating itself time and time again and she would love to figure out a way to contribute new ideas that can not only be heard but listened to. Her long term goal is to create freedom in our minds, hearts and souls and let go of all that does not serve us anymore. So what is the meaning of life? Where did we come from? Where do we go when we die? What is your life's purpose? How to find your life's purpose? CHECK THESE LINKS 1. Discover the next best version of yourself in the NLP Future Selfing online course https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-future-selfing.php 2. Learn how to challenge everything for the truth in the NLP Peace Mapping online course https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-peace-mapping.php 3. Learn how to meditate from an Osho Zen Sannyasin. https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-how-to-meditate.php 4. Join the NLP, Hypnotherapy & Meditation Group https://www.abbyeagle.com/courses-online/about-nlp-hypnotherapy-group.php Buy a Mug https://abbyeagle.threadless.com/collections/mugs/ Buy a T-Shirt https://abbyeagle.threadless.com/collections/t-shirt-collection/ FIND ABBY EAGLE ON FACEBOOK GROUP https://www.facebook.com/groups/339226860090869/ ___________________________________________ NLP Coaching, Hypnotherapy and Meditation Gold Coast, Australia ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YF0PTe0_uoo