I make references to the STRAIGHT UP GASLIGHTING and the bahaviors where people DO and SAY shit while HOPING YOU WILL SAY SOMETHING to them so that they have AN EXCUSE to GO OFF ON YOU ... i brief you on this so that i can talk about the DISCREAT, MORE SUBTLE, MORE CIVIL, MORE SNEAKY, VERBALLY NON-AGRESSIVE (or PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE if you prefer) NON-VIOLENT version of this behavior played by those who are TOO CIVILIZED or they rely on their "everybody loves me" reputation that they dont want to jeopardize. (Unlike the STRAIGHT UP GASLIGHTER who is MISTER or MISS "i need to DO or SAY shit to get YOU to SAY SOMETHING to have myself an EXCUSE to GO OFF ON YOU ..so i can VERBALLY or PHYSICALLY FIGHT"), The objective of the SLOW BURN GASLIGHTER is to try to get YOU to DO or SAY shit to look like the VERBALLY or POTENTIAL PHYSICALLY VIOLENT SCUM BAG that they are looking for you to be while ACTING INNOCENT in front of people..or if you politely choose to CALL THEM ON THE SHIT, you look like a PARANOID NUT JOB....But being tactfully aware and being quick and smart to JOKE IT OFF or if your somewhat a master of a dead pan reply .The OBJECTIVE is to make YOU look like THE AGGRESSOR if you DARE to SUBTLY call BULLSHIT if you decide your tired of JOKING IT OFF or you RUN OUT OF DEAD PAN REPLIES...Thats what they are counting on. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fp7Ljg8uC7k