A lot of "masculinity gurus" are teaching young men to keep their guard up with their wives, and to never confide their insecurities to them. They claim that this will cause their wives to lose respect for them, and lose confidence in them. Men, anyway, do not tend to show their emotions or fears, but if you are married to someone with whom you must constantly play a one-dimensional part -- that is a bad marriage already, and it is not going to last. You have to be able to be honest with your wife, even if that means sometimes letting her know the weaknesses you struggle against -- this will actually just make her better appreciate the strength it takes for you to carry on with what you have to do. Don't follow any advice that encourages you to be fake, or that teaches you to create greater distance between you and your spouse -- that is very bad advice. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJuGj9DHY7Y

The original video I am replying to is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LD5RHzJdLjw In my opinion, this is a good, sincere brother, and his channel is worth following, particularly for young Muslims in the West. ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1Y0eCGa6s8