Sometimes loving a lot you have to abandon a relationship that no longer does us good.
Although this can make the other person more paranoid, you need to take care of yourself. It doesn't do any good for both of you to get caught up in the cycle of anxiety.
Video that perhaps complements this reading: **[8 Reasons Why You're Always Unhappy](https://open.lbry.com/@psychological-consulting.com:c/8-Reasons-Why-You're-Always-Unhappy:c?r=HJUvU3hR7UH4krxDqinG5hrrJHBenSyU)**
**Tell me about your pain or ailment:**
Simple truth? . Well do not believe it. Most of us find it difficult to jump out of our skin and put ourselves in the shoes of another human being, even if it is that of a friend or loved one. This is because it is difficult to imagine something that has never been felt and that does not have visible symptoms such as pain . We tend to think that the symptoms are not real. All of this makes us fearful and doubt how to talk about it.
When the person hears this question, he calms down, because it shows that he is interested in it, in understanding, in understanding. Most of the time the person will want to talk about their condition, but they do not want to burden anyone with their "problems", so hearing the question will break down barriers and allow the exchange of data, feelings and opinions about pain and how it affects your life.
One word of caution: keep an open mind when listening to the answers. You are not always able to explain what it feels like and you may have questions that the person does not know or can answer.
Article Referenced: https://www.psychological-consulting.com/l/a6-things-to-say-when-someones-in-pain-video/
**Do not hesitate to consult a professional**
Ultimately, remember: To get rid of negative thoughts in the event they overwhelm you, the best thing to do is go to a psychologist or psychiatrist for help and other strategies. Professional treatment cannot be replaced by these tips, although these could be a good complement.
Article Referenced: https://www.psychological-consulting.com/l/a10-thoughts-that-can-destroy-relationships-video/
At a time when our political leaders want us to feel optimistic and even happy despite evidence that suggests our world is anything but wonderfully safe and healthy, I’ve been thinking about phrases like the “dark side of happiness” and the “paradox of resilience.” There is much we can learn about maintaining our mental health from research on how excessive happiness and feelings of invulnerability are actually dangerous. “Don't worry, be happy” might be a cute refrain, but sometimes despair and unhappiness are more likely to provide us with a sustainable sense of life satisfaction and motivate us to do the right thing to keep ourselves and others safe.
Article Referenced: https://www.psychological-consulting.com/l/harmful-happiness/
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**You don't enjoy the social activities you used to do.**
I always liked meeting with my group of friends. We saw each other two to four times a week and I loved it. We went to the worst club in town and we drank, danced, and sang all night. Today the idea of that could not be more unpleasant, since I would constantly worry about what the guy in the raincoat who does not know me and who will not see me again think of my singing voice. I loved those nights even more because after going out at night I felt like I had "earned" my free time when I got home. When you suffer from social anxiety, even the things you used to enjoy can be daunting and make you feel overwhelmed. One of the main downsides to this is that it's easy to start adopting unhealthy behaviors to help you enjoy these things again (for example, drinking more than you normally would for a night out), but it's about simple distractions and coping techniques to avoid having to deal with your problems head-on.
**You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to.**
Although I have never been the most sociable and outgoing person, I have always been part of a very close group of friends. Even with my introverted behaviors I have never struggled to keep these relationships strong. However, when someone is struggling with social anxiety, this can become a daunting task at times. You've left your friends for days for fear that conversations will take unwanted turns, leave messages unread, and avoid answering the phone to your best friends or your boss for no reason other than the possibility of "what if that conversation is about something with what I am not 100% prepared to face right now «, which you then remember days later and laugh when you think about it carefully.
We hope these examples help you differentiate between social anxiety and introversion and allow you to take the first steps in dealing with any problems you may have. Each person is different and, as such, nothing will help solve everyone's problems every time. The best thing I can recommend if you think you are struggling with social anxiety is to talk to your GP about the best way to treat it, be it through medication, cognitive behavioral therapy or social anxiety therapy.
Article Referenced: https://www.psychological-consulting.com/l/a5-signs-its-social-anxiety-and-not-introversion-video/
## **Better alone than in bad company**
We have grown up in the midst of **a romantic love** that is sometimes false since it is idealized. We believe that we are unable to continue with our life without that person who has supposedly been by our side before. We carry to the letter the "I can't live without you" of some songs without internalizing that what we really should think is "I don't want to live without you."
Of course we can live without that person who has been weakening us and sapping our self-esteem. When you live in a toxic relationship, you **internalize** the negative behaviors of the other person in such a way that you end up normalizing them. So much so that you can end up thinking that it is normal to feel **jealous** or even that their **actions are justified** . Error!
Every relationship is different. For a relationship to be considered toxic it does not have to contain each and every one of the commented characteristics. Identify the toxic behaviors of your partner, do not wait for time to change them and plan a strategy.
Remember, **love does NOT hurt.**
Article Referenced: https://www.psychological-consulting.com/l/a8-toxic-behaviors-that-kill-relationships-video/