When we ask, "what is wrong?" we get answers that often help us keep in a state of misery. When we replace our "what's wrong?" thinking and questions with a "what's right?" or a more open curiosity like, "what's going on here?" or, "what am I feeling right now?" we discover this gigantic world of possibilities where it's okay to just feel our feelings, it's okay to be who we are, and it's okay to experience whatever we are doing without judgment.

Thank you for reading about day 193 of Happier People Podcast and I hope you enjoy it!

I'm sharing this today because I hope it's really helpful to replace "what's wrong?" questioning and thinking with an open-minded curiosity because this for me has produced fantastic results in my life.

This is the answer to the questions I so often see, "How do I have so much energy? How do I stay motivated?" One huge tool with that is replacing "what's wrong?" thinking and questioning with open curiosity.

For example, today I spent about the first hour of the day crying and feeling a lot of sadness, hurt and I'm not even sure why? Now, one thing which hinders that experience, which makes it harder to do that is to ask, "what's wrong?"

Because "what's wrong?" implies things are not as they should be.

It is a built-in judgment that most of us have been raised with. Any time we are crying or being inappropriate, we, by the question itself, are wrong.

This question is hardwired into so many of us and I cringe every time I see a boy crying, especially a boy because men are raised that if you are crying something is wrong, because if nothing was wrong you wouldn't be like that.

Let's try it.

When you look in the mirror and ask yourself, "what's wrong?" how do you feel?

I know. I will do it right now.

"What's wrong?"

My mind immediately flows with all these things:

"Well, your money might not work out. Well, people might not like this video. Well, this person did this a while ago and the world's like this and …"

You see the energy that produces?

Now, let's try it a different way.

"What's alive in me right now?"

My mind says:

"Hope. Excitement. The possibility that this might be life-changing, that experiencing what I'm creating right now might really help you. A love and curiosity. A child like enthusiasm for life. That's what's alive in me."

Do you see the difference in asking those two questions?

That's massive.

It's huge!

Let's try it again.

"Jerry, what's wrong with you right now?"

I just got a really ridiculous answer.

My mind said:

"You're too fat. You're too fat. That's what's wrong with you right now. You're too fat."

Are you kidding me?

I'm too fat?

I weigh about probably 165 pounds right at this moment. That's the least I've weighed since probably middle school. This is the best I've loo
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