In today’s episode, we cover negotiation with Barry Nalebuff. Barry is a Professor at Yale where he has taught negotiation, innovation, strategy, and game theory for thirty years, and recently authored Split the Pie: A Radical New Way to Negotiate, which is based on his negotiation course.
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In this episode, we discuss with Judy Ringer the core psychological principles that cause unnecessary conflict and the different phases of conflict resolution. Judy Ringer is a conflict and communication skills professional, as well as the author of Turn Enemies into Allies: the Art of Peace in the workplace.
Conflict resolution is not a skillset that comes naturally for most of us because our egos will always want to defend us by proving we’re correct at the expense of actually working to a resolution, so what can we do to understand the psychology of conflict resolution and improve our conflict resolution skills?
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What to Listen For:
► What core psychological principles cause unnecessary conflict and what can you do to deal with them?
► What are the different phases of conflict resolution?
► What can you do to develop the skills required for effective conflict resolution and how can they save you from sabotaging your jobs, friends, or relationship?
► How did Judy Ringer get her start in conflict resolution?
► During conflict, why do we default to wanting to be right instead of being curious about the other side, and what can we do to flip that switch so we can deal with conflict more effectively?
► How can using open questions instead of statements or closed questions lead to an environment better suited for conflict resolution?
► What does it mean to take responsibility for conflict even if you’re not actually at fault for what happened?
► How do you reflect on recent conflicts in order to learn from them and develop your conflict resolution skills?
► What can you do to journal your conflict resolution journey in a way that helps you grow?
► What simple tips can you implement to start redirecting conflict toward resolution rather than escalation?
► As a manager, how do you ask the right questions when trying to resolve a conflict between your employees?
► What markers can you look for to detect conflict under the surface that might not be apparent at first glance so you know when to step in and stop a spark from growing into a wildfire?
Conflict resolution is a skill most of us have to work on intentionally and consistently because our default as humans is to “resolve” conflicts by proving we’re right rather than trying to understand both sides and come to an actual resolution cooperatively. The best place to start is by recognizing the moment a conflict arises and making the decision to ask questions instead of proving you’re right.
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David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
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The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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Being able to feel secure in your relationships can make all the difference to your well-being in your relationships. Amy Chan, author of Breakup Bootcamp, shares how.
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Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
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Building (or breaking) a new habit can effectively be broken into 3 different phases, each with its own challenge which can prevent you from reaching the next one - but what are the 3 phases, how can awareness of each one assist you, and is a new habit locked in once you reach the 3rd phase?
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What to Listen For
-What are the three phases of efficiently building new habits?
-How long is the “honeymoon” phase of building a new habit and what can you do to ensure you don’t fail immediately after?
-What is the “fight thru” phase of habit building and how can you use knowledge of it to your advantage?
-What 2 simple questions can you ask yourself everyday to keep you on track?
-Why are contingency plans vital to developing and maintaining strong habits?
-How do you make sure the success of building one habit doesn’t lead you to be lazy when it comes to maintaining it?
-AJ explains how you can actually revert back through the phases of habit building if you’re not careful and intentional about continuing to work on them
-Where does self-compassion enter the equation of habit building and how can the lack of it lead you to fail?
-How can habits impede progress toward your larger goals and what can you do to mitigate the interference?
-AJ and Johnny explain how to use regular goal setting, intentional novelty, and the celebration of small victories to compound your development of great habits
Building new habits is an ongoing process that requires your daily attention and effort in order to succeed. When first starting a new habit it can be easy to get caught up in the immediate rewards of progress - notice by friends and coworkers and changes in mood and feeling to give a couple examples. After the first phase, however, it becomes more challenging and it can be easy to fail unless you set your mind to the process.
Finally, once you push through the second phase into the last phase, your job is not over, because now you must work at maintaining the new habit. Set goals to keep challenging yourself, find friends or family to keep you accountable by challenging each other, and introduce novelty in whatever habit you’re trying to maintain to ensure it doesn’t get boring.
Resources from this Episode
“Habit Formation: The 21-Day Myth” by Jason Selk: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2013/04/15/habit-formation-the-21-day-myth/#1f9d7ca0debc
Self-esteem is Bullshit (Episode 729): https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/729-selfesteem/
Master Your Mindset with David Goggins (Episode 730): https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/730-master-mindset/
“How Habits Can Get in the Way of Your Goals” by Catherine Benner: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_habits_can_get_in_the_way_of_your_goals
Habits in Everyday Life: Thought, Emotion, and Action: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/dac6/ddda7bc9e733d5bf4df12dd1d4d6c6251faa.pdf
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What does eating healthier food mean for your overall health?
In today’s episode, we cover how to change with Katy Milkman. Katy is a professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, host of Charles Schwab’s popular behavioral economics podcast Choiceology, and the former president of the international Society for Judgment and Decision Making.
Making long lasting changes in our behavior, including eating healthier food, can be difficult, so what mindsets help us to make changes, what can you do to overcome low confidence when making big changes, and how do you overcome procrastination so you don’t keep putting off the life you want?
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Jay Shetty on Overcoming Self Doubt https://youtu.be/OOoURnvTRu4
Eric Weinstein on Overcoming Bias https://youtu.be/dQhOgwu2eZc
David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
Top 5 Social Skills Toolbox Episodes
Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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