Relationships are a two-way street, but when it comes to communication it’s important to understand people have a variety of preferences when it comes to how love and affection are given and received, so what are those preferences, how can you identify what someone’s preferences are, and how can you implement all of this information to build new relationships and strengthen existing ones?
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What to Listen For
-What can you do to strengthen the relationships in your life?
-What can you do if you think you’re a great listener but people around you keep complaining about you not listening?
-Why is it a recipe for disaster to look for someone to complete you and what should you be looking for instead?
-What are the Five Languages of Appreciation and how can you pick the best one for each of your relationships?
-What are the three parts of communication and how does your awareness of each part help to mitigate miscommunication?
-How do you identify the love languages of family, friends, and coworkers?
-Why are openness and vulnerability mandatory when it comes to figuring out the love languages of the people in your life?
-What little signals can you pay attention to so you can get an idea for how your loved ones communicate?
In order to deepen the connections we have with the people around us, it’s important to understand how the people around us prefer to be treated. Just because you view the giving and receiving of affection one way, doesn’t mean everyone else does as well. Some people prefer to show their appreciation through words, some prefer to show it through gifts, and some prefer the spending of quality time together - and that’s just to name a few.
Resources from this Episode
Episode 719 Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship: https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/art-of-charm-emotional-bids-719/
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/the-5-love-languages/
The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Gary Chapman: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/the-5-languages-of-appreciation-in-the-workplace/
The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/the-5-love-languages-of-children/
Learn Your Love Language with this Quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
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In today’s episode, we cover the science of competition with Ashley Merryman. Ashley is the Non-Resident Senior Fellow for the Joint Special Operations University and author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.
Competition can be healthy and unhealthy, so how do you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy competition, what are the differences between how introverts and extroverts handle competition, and how does gender play a role in competition?
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In today’s episode, we cover the 3 pillars of powerful communication with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.
Humans are social creatures and history has taught us that powerful communication can help anyone achieve any goal we have in life, but what are the 3 pillars of powerful communication, how can you strengthen each one, and what are you risking by never becoming a powerful communicator?
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Undestanding the voice in your head, is the first step to harnessing the power of your internal dialogue. In this clip we reveal why the voice in your head never stops it's chatter & how we can harness it productively.
00:00 - Intro
00:37 - The true power of your inner-dialogue
03:06 - How to quiet racing thoughts in your mind
05:49 - When being "present" is actually a bad thing
07:39 - Social media & the effect on your inner voice
10:25 - Does "sleeping on it" actually work?
13:23 - Why you can't distance yourself from your inner-voice
14:57 - Helping your loved ones with their inner-voice
19:30 - Ethan Kross's X-Factor
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In this episode of the Art of Charm, we explore how to get control over the voice in your head and avoid letting it run away with your life. Self-doubt, self-criticism, and negativity are all examples of destructive thoughts that can keep you from achieving what you want out of life.
Ways to stop negative thinking:
The first step is realizing that these thoughts are not true; they're just a product of how you're feeling on a certain day or moment. The next step is challenging these thoughts by asking yourself whether there's any evidence for them being true - more often than not there isn't! Once you've done this, think about another thought that might be more helpful.
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In today’s episode, we cover focus and attention with Dr. Amishi Jha. Dr. Amishi Jha received her Ph.D. from the University of California–Davis, is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami, and is the Cofounder and Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative.
It seems like our attention spans are getting shorter every year, but are they really, what can we do to improve our ability to focus, and how do we deal with the countless entities always clawing for our attention everywhere we look?
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Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
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Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
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Many of us take listening for granted because we do it all day every day, but did you know there are multiple layers to listening and many of us only focus on one of them - so what does it mean to listen in color versus black and white, how can you vastly improve your listening skills with a few tips you can start using today, and why is effective listening such a powerful skill to have?
What to Listen For
-How can you use silence in conversation to improve your listening skills?
-What are the four villains of listening and how can you avoid becoming each one?
-What is the 125-400 rule and why is it so important when it comes to effective communication?
-What tips can you implement today to become a better listener at work and at home?
-How can you use body language to improve your listening ability?
-What does listening for patterns in what people say teach you about what’s important to them?
-What is the difference between listening with your head and listening with your heart?
-What are the five levels of listening and which one do 86% of people zero in on?
-The one question you can use at any networking event to connect with anyone
Listening is the most important skill we can develop as humans because we primarily communicate using spoken language. In addition, one could argue the only reason we have made it this far as a species is our ability to work together in large groups, so where would we be if we never developed language and therefore the ability to listen to and understand what others want us to know?
Technology has since replaced many of the reasons we initially developed and used spoken language for (oral history, traditions, business, transactions, etc), but it is still the most effective method we have to build deep meaningful relationships with our fellow humans. Also, because of our increasing reliance on technology, attentive listening (aka not getting distracted by our mobile devices every time we hear something vibrate) is not a skill that is being adequately cultivated in the current and subsequent generations. It’s time to change that.
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In today’s episode, we cover the science of subtraction with Leidy Klotz. Leidy studies the science of design, his research has appeared in both Nature and Science, and his book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, was ranked as one of the most influential titles in the fields of design and behavioral science.
As humans, we gravitate toward acquiring things and activities to add value to our lives, but many times we can add value to our lives by removing things from it—why is our biology working against us, how can you determine what to subtract from your life, and how do you get your family, friends, and coworkers on board?
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David Goggins on Building Mental Toughness https://youtu.be/ueNtejxVY24
Charles Duhigg on Developing Success Habits https://youtu.be/qjydQpvXczo
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Art of First Impressions https://youtu.be/ioQrinlWzR8
How To Talk To Strangers https://youtu.be/y7FrWZCwi9A
Leaving Toxic Relationships https://youtu.be/GiogVWmQ9Oc
The Art of Compelling Conversations https://youtu.be/JlHa0naefb8
Charismatic Body Language Tips https://youtu.be/_F99kE-OdMc
Top Videos to Sharpen Your Social Skills
How To Talk To Anyone 5 Tips https://youtu.be/Oq-IvIxbHSE
Never Run Out of Things to Say (3 Tricks) https://youtu.be/4H_WsG-1B0U
How to Know if You Made the RIGHT Decision https://youtu.be/M95fX7gNm9I
5 Social Skills Mistakes Logical People Make https://youtu.be/3OSiVa6qldk
Recognizing Emotional Bids (Instantly Connect With Anyone) https://youtu.be/kNyy7ar2g0k
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